DISTANCE

“Distance has no meaning when two hearts are one,” and I wholeheartedly agree, being in a long distance relationship myself. So again, to all the couples out there who has proven that it’s true, that had literally went against all odds, I salute you. I respect you. Please continue making the world a better, more loveable, and more worthy place to live, and for the rest of humanity to become less cynical.

Failure to Successful

Every successful person faced a lot of rejection first. Even the Prophet (saw) did Da’wah for thirteen years in Makkah where he(saw) was rejected continuously.

Allah has already written the names of your spouses

Allah has already written the names of your spouses for you. What you need to work on is your relationship with Allah. He will send her/him to you when you’re ready. It is only a matter of time.
We always feel that Allah's blessings never come on time, but the truth is, they are always on time, but we are always in a hurry.

HAPPIEST MOVEMENT

If the happiest moments in your life occurred only because of worldly things, you've never experienced true happiness.

The Healing Power of Tolerance (Seeing the World Through a Child’s Eyes)

As human beings we are shaped by our experiences, especially those out of the ordinary. Survival tolerance is still part of my nature and always will be. For me, and likely other native people, it’s a learned mechanism that is hard to shed. But tolerance is positive as well. My grandparents were extremely tolerant of me, especially in my early childhood. They were tolerant of my moods, behavior, and habits because they cared about me. They had raised my mother and my uncle, after all, and understood how children were. My moods and my behavior were nothing new to them, just part of the reality of childhood. They were part of what I was in those years, and they were not (as I recall) overwhelming or constant problems. The point is that my grandparents sometimes (probably often) had to be tolerant of unacceptable behavior, but never did they have to be tolerant of me as a person. It did not enter

their minds, or later mine, that they had to “tolerate” the part of me that was white, my one-eighth French blood. That seemingly innocuous reality opened a window to a broader understanding for me; it taught me that tolerance for any reason is a good thing because it can be the first step toward the absence of prejudice.

To take this first step, it is not necessary to like one another, as long as we know that we all have the same right to exist. The story that opens this chapter begins with the words “Long, long ago it was said that all the people spoke the same language.” If they had not, the wolf and the raven would not have been able to communicate. And perhaps that language has nothing to do with words after all, but with the simple act of tolerance.

The wolf and the raven disliked one another for reasons that were right and logical for each of them. Their initial tolerance was very limited, based on what each could gain from the other. As their relationship progressed they both learned that they stood to gain much more from each other than that practical exchange. In the end they became friends. They did not tolerate each other in spite of what the other was. As far as I am concerned, they tolerated each other because their friendship far exceeded the perceptions and limitations of “not as good as” or “less than.”
Those factors no longer mattered. What mattered was the value each saw in the other as a fellow being who was part of the world.

Recently my oldest son texted a photograph of his son, my grandson, who is five and in kindergarten. The caption was “Tokahe and his kola.” Kola is “friend” in Lakota. In the photograph my black-haired and brown-skinned grandson (Lakota and Navajo) is standing with his arm around his best friend, who has blond hair and light skin. I doubt that either of these good friends realizes that they are exhibiting unconditional tolerance. At their age, being friends is not a matter of race, creed, or color. It is two kindred spirits forming a bond and having the adventure of kindergarten. For them there is absolutely nothing about each other they need to tolerate. For them it is total acceptance of what the other is. No more and no less. 

Innocence is the power that children have, one that we all have but lose when the world shows us what life is really all about—or so we are told. But the memory of the sanctity of innocence should motivate us to strive for it: a full circle back to a state of mind when we could and did look at the world around us without the burden of prejudices. Sadly, many of us cannot divest ourselves of the prejudices we have acquired and learned. We are not strong enough, or courageous enough, to consider that something, or someone, or some situation or circumstance could be different than we believe. We would rather be comfortable with our perceptions, even if they are wrong.

Most of us who have been kicked around by life (and who has not been?) probably think that innocence has no place in the world as we know it to be. Consequently we limit ourselves by looking at life and the world through the small window of our reality. We find a certain amount of security in that. Innocence, though, was the realm wherein we had the ability to see without limits and perceive without prejudice. If we had that ability as adults, we could look at the world as it really is with all its foibles and endless variety. That is tolerance. To be tolerant we do not have to be innocent, we simply have to remember what it was like to be innocent.

MAGIC OF ISLAM

Come forward as servants of Islam, organise the people economically, socially, educationally and politically and I am sure that you will be a power that will be accepted by everybody.

Muhammad Ali Jinnah

dua

Only dua can turn your "can't" in to a "can".

Secrets of Happiness

Once a wise man drew a line on a board and told his student to make the line shorter without touching or erasing it. How would you do it? You have to shorten a line without touching it. The intelligent one (referring to the student) then drew a much longer line underneath that line. So, the line automatically became shorter. The lesson here is that if your difficulties appear to be very big, lift your eyes because you are only focused on yourself. If you lift your eyes up and look at those who are in a worse condition than you, you will suddenly feel that your burden is not as bad as you thought it was. If you think you have some big problem, look at people who have a greater problem. Suddenly, you will get a confidence that my problem is much smaller, and I can manage it.
So, the first point on how to be happy is to see the world where there are greater and bigger problems. Then, your problems will appear smaller. The moment your problems appear smaller, you will get the energy and confidence to deal with it or solve it. In simple words, serve those who are in greater need.
Second, look at your own life. In the past, you had many problems. They have all come and gone. Know that even this will go and you do have the energy and power to overcome it. You will get self-confidence by understanding and looking at your own past.
Third, and most important, do some breathing exercise and relaxation.
Fourth, do you know, in anger we say, ‘I give up’. Without frustration or anger say, ‘I give this problem up, I cannot solve it, let the Divine help me.’ And know that you will always be helped. Have the confidence that you will be helped; a power in the universe is going to help you.

The fifth one – what do you think is the fifth one? I leave it to you. You think about the fifth one. I can go on up to twenty-five or thirty (points), but I would like you to come up with it. We are always looking for solutions from someone. We forget that if we turn our mind inward, we can get some idea, some solution. This is the fifth one. Spontaneity! Be spontaneous. Spontaneity will come when you take a few minutes to go deep within yourself. There is nothing great in smiling when everything is normal, and when everything is going the way you want. But if you awaken the valor inside of you, and say, ‘Come what may, I am going to keep smiling’, you will notice tremendous energy, just rise from within you. And the problem is like nothing; it just comes and disappears.

Silent Prayer

You don't need to shout nor to cry out loud because Allah hears even the very silent prayer of a sincere heart.

YOU ARE POWERFUL

You are powerful.

You can do anything you want.

Forget your circumstances and focus on what lies inside. If you want to be a writer, write. If you want to get in shape, exercise. If you want to be an artist, create art. If you want to be a good parent, become more involved. If you want a career, plan how you will achieve that. If you want adventure, go for it.

If you want to do just about anything, you can.

Your life and circumstances, in this current moment, do not define who you are.

You are more than your circumstances and you are more than your past.

You still have many choices. There is a person in there, a person who is powerful and capable of doing just about anything she wants with her life. You have the power to do anything you choose.

You are not broken.

Learn from your past, see it for what it was—but it does not define you either.

You are a fully capable and functioning woman of beauty and power. Think about what you have bravely marched through. Think of all the times you picked yourself up.

You are not broken.

You are capable and a lovely soul. You have much to offer. You may not feel like you are powerful, but feelings are not facts. Recognize everything you have been through exactly for what it was. It’s important. Take time to reflect—find the patterns and believe you can rise above.

You can.

You have the power to break through. You have the power to overcome.

You are worthy.

You are worthy of happiness, greatness, love and respect. Demand it. Do not settle for anything less. No one in this world is above you or below you.

You are a woman of worth—as all women are; as all people are.

Do not let anyone harm you in any way—this includes emotionally. You have the right to separate yourself from things that are not in your best interest.

Do not let others have more influence over your life than you do.

Take care of yourself. Go after happiness and your dreams. You are worthy—believe that and focus on self love.

It will help you in every aspect of your life. You have the power to demand respect.

You are beautiful.

Stop looking around, comparing yourself to everyone else.

Stop looking at the T.V. screen. Stop thinking about how you don’t measure up.

Look in the mirror; look into your own eyes. Focus on you and who you are.

There is no one else like you in the entire world.

You are beautiful and unique and your beauty goes far beyond the way you look.

Focus on what you like about yourself, as a whole person. If there is something you want to change, make sure it is for you and find a loving way to do it. If you have negative thoughts or dialog, change them to positive.

You are beautiful. You have the power to love the skin you are in.

You are powerful.

STAY...............

A man asked a wise if he should stay with his wife or with your lover.

The wise took two flowers in your hands, one with a rose and the other with a cactus and asked the man:- If i give you one of these flowers which one you choose?
The man smiled and said:- The rose is logical! You are reckless-replied the wise.
Sometimes men are moved by external beauty or by the mundane and choose what seems to shine more.

The rose is more beautiful, but dies soon.
Your wife knows your faults, your weaknesses, your mistakes. She cries out your moments with you bad and she is always ready to help you.
Her mistress wants your money, your happiness, your spaces, costumes, and her smile, the first difficulty you will not hesitate to exchange for another young lover, happy and with money Now tell me man, with whom you want to stay?
The value of your woman no matter how she is on the outside, because what it is and what good she is inside...

LOVE YOUR WIFE

"That's The Way It Is"

I can read your mind and I know your story
I see what you're going through
It's an uphill climb, and I'm feeling sorry
But I know it will come to you

Don't surrender 'cause you can win
In this thing called love

When you want it the most there's no easy way out
When you're ready to go and your heart's left in doubt
Don't give up on your faith
Love comes to those who believe it
And that's the way it is

When you question me for a simple answer
I don't know what to say, no
But it's plain to see, if you stick together
You're gonna find a way, yeah

So don't surrender 'cause you can win
In this thing called love

When you want it the most there's no easy way out
When you're ready to go and your heart's left in doubt
Don't give up on your faith
Love comes to those who believe it
And that's the way it is

When life is empty with no tomorrow
And loneliness starts to call
Baby, don't worry, forget your sorrow
'Cause love's gonna conquer it all, all

When you want it the most there's no easy way out
When you're ready to go and your heart's left in doubt

Don't give up on your faith
Love comes to those who believe it
And that's the way it is

DOUBLE CHOCOLATE CAKE

The original recipe from Gourmet notes that you can use any semisweet chocolate for the cake and the icing. So far I have only used semisweet chocolate but I am looking forward to trying Guittard French-vanilla chocolate for the frosting.

INGREDIENTS

CAKE

3 ounces fine-quality semisweet chocolate

1 1/2 cups hot brewed coffee

3 cups sugar

2 1/2 cups all-purpose flour

1 1/2 cups unsweetened cocoa powder (not Dutch process)

2 teaspoons baking soda

3/4 teaspoon baking powder

1 1/4 teaspoons salt

3 large eggs

3/4 cup vegetable oil

1 1/2 cups well-shaken buttermilk

3/4 teaspoon vanilla

GANACHE

1 pound fine-quality semisweet chocolate

1 cup heavy cream

2 tablespoons sugar

2 tablespoons light corn syrup

1/2 stick (1/4 cup) unsalted butter

SPECIAL EQUIPMENT

Two 10-by-2 inch round cake pans*

DIRECTIONS

CAKE

Preheat oven to 300 degrees and grease pans. Line bottoms with rounds of wax paper and grease paper.

Finely chop chocolate and in a bowl combine with hot coffee. Let mixture stand, stirring occasionally, until chocolate is melted and mixture is smooth.

Into a large bowl sift together sugar, flour, cocoa powder, baking soda, baking powder, and salt. In another large bowl with an electric mixer beat eggs until thickened slightly and lemon colored (about 3 minutes with a standing mixer or 5 minutes with a hand-held mixer). Slowly add oil, buttermilk, vanilla, and melted chocolate mixture to eggs, beating until combined well. Add sugar mixture and beat on medium speed until just combined well. Divide batter between pans and bake in middle of oven until a tester inserted in center comes out clean-1 hour to 1 hour and 10 minutes.

Cool layers completely in pans on racks. Run a thin knife around edges of pans and invert layers onto racks. Carefully remove wax paper and cool layers completely. Cake layers may be made 1 day ahead and kept, wrapped well in plastic wrap, at room temperature.

GANACHE

Finely chop chocolate. In a 1 1/2 to 2 quart saucepan bring cream, sugar, and corn syrup to a boil over moderately low heat, whisking until sugar is dissolved. Remove pan from heat and add chocolate, whisking until chocolate is melted. Cut butter into pieces and add to frosting, whisking until smooth.

Transfer frosting to a bowl and cool, stirring occasionally, until spreadable (depending on chocolate used, it may be necessary to chill frosting to spreadable consistency).

Spread frosting between cake layers and over top and sides. Cake keeps, covered and chilled, 3 days. Bring cake to room temperature before serving.

*I use two 9 inch round cake pans and fill them about two thirds of the way. You will have some leftover batter.

طویل انتظار

انتظار

طویل ہو جائے تو محبتیں بے یقین ہو جاتی ہیں لیکن اظہار کا پانی محبت کو پھر سے شاداب کر ڈالتا ہے اور جس محبت کو اظہار کا پانی میّسر نہ ہو' وہ محبت اپنا وجود بھی کھو دیتی ہے اس پودے کی طرح جو پانی نہ ملنے پر بہت جلد ی سوکھ جاتا ہے-

مایوس

انسان مایوس اورپریشان اس وقت ہوتا ہےجب اپنے رب کو راضی کرنے کی بجائے لوگوں کو راضی کرنے میں لگ 

جاتا ہے....!!!

HOPELESS

AMERICAN POPCORN CHICKEN

AMERICAN POPCORN CHICKEN

Gola Kabab

Historical Background

Kabab of Pakistan and Afghanistan  – rolled meatballs originating in Peshawar  and Kandahar

Gola or Lola kabab, a kind of rolled meat ball , are originated in Kandahar, Afganistan by the Poshtuns ; but it’s incredible softness and melt-in- mouth kind made it so popular , even beyond the boundary of it’s origin . The shape of the kabab resembles to that of the cannons or “gola”s , that is why it is named gola kabab. Gola kababs can be pan fried in a very little oil or can be grilled on charcoal or even baked and broiled in a oven . When grilled on charcoal , the golas of minced meat are put around the skewer , tied around with a thread , because unlike boti or sheekh kabab , only minced meat are used and if they are not tied with thread , the kabab may fall apart . For gola kabab , not only minced meat is used , the meat should be double minced , i.e, the mince meat will be beaten / blended again with spices before they are put on charcoal or pan fried . :) Many uses binding agent like egg or besan( gram flour) in the recipe, but trust me , you won’t get the authentic taste if you use those binding ingredients . The kababs tend to fall apart and that’s the beauty .

GOLA KABAB

There are some very important notes to be remembered for the perfect gola kabab . I will discuss them at the end of the recipe.

Ingredients:

Ingredients to be mixed with mince:

Minced Beef 2 cups ( 1cup= 250 ml)

Ginger , grated 2 and half tea spoon

Garlic grated 1 tea spoon

Raw papaya , grated 2-3 tbl spoon

Chopped onion 2 tbl spoon

Fried onion  1/4 th cup

Chopped green chili

Chopped mint 2 tbl spoon

Chopped cilantro 1 tbl spoon

Ghee 1 tbl spoon

Salt t o taste

Other ingredients:

Special Masala

Yogurt 1 tbl spoon

Cinnamon Powder 1/4th tea spoon

Nutmeg Powder 1/4th teaspoon

Charcoal Smoke of one charcoal

Special Masala:

zeera 1 tea spoon

Whole coriander 1 teaspoon

Black pepper 1 teaspoon

Cloves 5/6

Fennel half teaspoon

All spice/ kabab chini 2/3

Star anise , half of one

Black cardamom, half of one

4/5 green cardamom

Dry red chili 2/ 3

Mace half a teaspoon

Grind them together into a fine powder . We need all , the whole quantity for this recipe . I skipped one spice, which is known as “filfil daraz”"kashmiri mirch" talhari mirch" or long pepper , since I couldn’t find them in my nearby grocery . If you get them, take only 1 in this masala.

Procedure:

1. Put the minced beef in a food processor or blender with all the ingredients mentioned in “ingredients to be mixed with the mince”. Don’t add any water . beat / blend well .

2. Add 1 tbl spoon of yogurt and special masala in it . Don’t take the water of the yogurt . try to drain out the water from it before adding with the mince .

3. Smoke the mince with charcoal for five minutes . For that lit the charcoal very well , place it in a small bowl and put that small bowl on the mince . Then add ghee to the charcoal to create the smoke . cover the bowl with a lid and smoke the mince for 5 minutes.

4. Shape the kababs And keep it in the refrigerator for at least 24 hours . Don’t put them in the deep chamber. Keeping them in refrigerator for a longer time will help the kababs to get firmer and also the spices will get into very well .

5. For Pan frying , take a little oil to fry . At first , fry them on medium low heat for 10 minutes then increase the heat and fry another five minutes . Don’t over fry or else the meat will get tight . Be vary careful while flipping over . Try to flip one by one carefully , otherwise they may fall apart .

You may bake the kababs in oven for 15 minutes at 375 FH and then broil another 5 minutes or until done .

Notes:

1. Don’t wash the mince . So before making the keema or mince , wash your meat well . There should be no water in the mince .

2. I used grated ginger, garlic and papaya to avoid extra water .

3. The kababs tend to fall apart , so fry them gently . Don’t try to turn them over again and again . After taking them out from the oven , take out the skewer carefully , or else u may end up with broken kababs. If you are afraid of broken kababs , you may tie a thread around the kabab before frying and grilling .

GOLA KEBAB

Be Happy

خوش رہا کرو - پریشان رہنے والوں کو کبھی کچھ نہیں ملا - اگر ملا بھی تو وہ اس سے لطف اندوز کبھی نہیں ہو سکے
صرف اس لئے کہا تھا کہ میں خود اس دور سے گزر چکا ہوں. برسوں تک خوب دل لگا کر پریشان رہا. شاید اس لئے کہ پریشان ہونا بے حد آسان ہے. لیکن سواۓ اس کے کہ چہرے پر غلط جگہ لائنیں پڑ گئیں ، کوئی فائدہ نہیں ہوا. اب اس نتیجے پر پہنچا ہوں کہ چہرے پر لائنیں پڑنی ہی ہیں تو فقط وہاں پڑنی چاہئیں جہاں مسکرا...ہٹ سے بنتی ہیں 

اعتبار

اعتبار عجیب جنس ہوتا ہے نایاب اس قدر کہ ڈھونڈتے رہیں اور عمرگزر جائے ارزاں اتنا کہ ایک محبت بھری نگاہ یقین سے بھر دے.

Anger

پتا نہیں غصے کی وہ کون سی حالت ہوتی ہے جس میں انسان برسوں کے ساتھ اور ساتھی کو لمحوں میں 

چھوڑنے کا فیصلہ کر لیتا ہے۔ پیار، محبت، اعتماد، دوستی کوئی چیز پاؤں کی زنجیر نہیں بن پاتی.

Monte Carlo Chicken

Monte Carlo Chicken 

Ingredients:

• Chicken breast 2
• Bread crumbs as required
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For Batter:

• Flour 2 tbsp
• Egg 1
• White pepper 1/4 tsp
• Mustard 1/4 tsp
• Salt 1/4 tsp
• Chili powder 1/4 tsp
• Vinegar 1 tsp
• HP sauce 1 tsp
• Wooster sauce 1 tsp
• Chopped onion 1 tbsp
• Coriander leaves 1 tbsp
• Tomato 1
• Capsicum 1
• Olives sliced 4
• Mushroom 2 sliced
• Cheddar cheese 4 tbsp

Method:

1. Dip chicken breast in batter.
2. Then roll in bread crumbs and shallow fry in frying pan.
3. Then put in oven tray and cover capsicum rings, tomato slice,oregano, mushroom and olives with cheddar cheese.
4. Now grill it for 10 minutes until cheese melts and golden color on top.
5. For batter: Mix flour, egg, white pepper, mustard, salt, chili powder, vinegar, hp sauce, wooster sauce, chopped onion and coriander leaves

ﺍﻋﺘﺮﺍﻑ ﻣﺤﺒﺖ

ﺍﯾﮏ ﺩﻓﻌﮧ ﺍﻋﺘﺮﺍﻑ ﻣﺤﺒﺖ ﮐﮯ ﺑﻌﺪ
ﺳﺎﺭﯼ ﻣﺰﺍﺣﻤﺖ ﺧﺘﻢ ﮨﻮ ﺟﺎﺗﯽ ﮨﮯ۔
ﺁﭖ ﮐﭽﮫ ﮐﺮﻧﮯ ﮐﮯ ﻗﺎﺑﻞ ﻧﮩﯿﮟ ﺭﮨﺘﮯ
ﭘﮭﺮ ﺁﭖ ﺩﻭﺳﺮﮮ ﻓﺮﯾﻖ ﮐﮯ ﺭﺣﻢ ﻭ
ﮐﺮﻡ ﭘﺮ ﮨﻮﺗﮯ ﮨﯿﮟ۔ﺟﻮ ﮐﭽﮫ ﮐﺮﻧﺎ ﮨﻮﺗﺎ
ﮨﮯ ﺍﺳﮟ ﻧﮯ ﮐﺮﻧﺎ ﮨﻮﺗﺎ ﮨﮯ۔
ﺍﻧﺎ،ﻋﺰﺕ ﻧﻔﺲ ﻧﺎﻡ ﮐﯽ ﭼﯿﺰﯾﮟ
ﻣﻨﭩﻮﮞ ﻣﯿﮟ ﻏﺎﺋﺐ ﮨﻮ ﺟﺎﺗﯽ ﮨﯿﮟ ﭘﮭﺮ
ﺁﭖ ﮐﺎ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺻﺮﻑ ﻧﺎﻡ ﮐﺎ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ
ﺭﮨﺘﺎ ﮨﮯ۔

Once admitted you love

than

The resistance ends.

 you may be unable to any thing 

Then you mercy of the other partner

Worm have to the

. What to do

He has to.

Ego, self-name stuff

In minutes, then disappear.

You exist in name only exist

Remains.